Wedding magazines, for all of their glamorous photos, great reads and reams of dresses, exist primarily to serve the industry, says award-winning American photographer Anne Almasy on the Huffington Post.

She goes on to quote a magazine editor “These are all really pretty, but we want to see more details. More pictures of flowers, centerpieces, and any other details that really made these weddings special. Our Real Weddings section should give brides ideas for planning the perfect wedding.”

Almasy gives this charge to brides: put down the magazine, log out of Pinterest, and shut the lid on your laptop.

put down the magazine, log out of Pinterest, and shut the lid on your laptop.
Instead, on your wedding day priorities these precious things:

  • throw the party of your lives with every. single. detail. Exactly as you dreamed it would be.
  • Don’t stress about anything. When it’s all over, you will be married, and surrounded by the people who know you and love you most in the whole wide world.
  • Don’t stress about your shoes or your cake or your flowers.
  • Look at the person you want to grow old with.

And, get make sure your photographer gets these photos

  • your parents, who will hold hands and cry on the first row of the chapel.
  • your sister dancing with that boy she will marry in three years.
  • those kids who will grow up so, so quickly.
  • your grandfather, who will pass away next spring. (I hope not!)
  • your first kiss as a married couple.
  • your best friend busting out her signature dance moves.
  • the flower girl asleep under a table.
  • maybe even your ex looking pretty wistful as he hugs you a little too long in the receiving line.
Getting married: What photos should be added to that list? Already married: What photos do you wish you had taken? Join the conversation in the comments.