A word we’re sure to hear more than once a day in the wedding industry is ‘tradition’.

Either something is or isn’t traditional. People are or aren’t following tradition. We’re doing something because it’s tradition, we’re not doing it for the same reason.

We’re dropping traditions and picking up traditions, and all in all it feels like the T word is some kind of spiritual superpower in the wedding industry. There’s a whole gamut of approaches towards the T word. Many of us call ourselves untraditional celebrants or non-traditional wedding creators. Couples are often keen to identify as “not very traditional”.

Which makes me think about what the T word even means, it gets bandied around so much. I feel like G.K. Chesterton’s 1929 approach in “The Thing” is a safe and beautiful view to breaking tradition:

“The more modern type of reformer goes gaily up to a fence and says, “I don’t see the use of this; let us clear it away.” To which the more intelligent type of reformer will do well to answer: “If you don’t see the use of it, I certainly won’t let you clear it away. Go away and think. Then, when you can come back and tell me that you do see the use of it, I may allow you to destroy it.”

I will be your biggest enabler and cheerleader to destroying and breaking traditions, I think it would just be nice to “go away and think” first, so we can “see the use” of them, and then destroy with purpose, vigour, and determination, because it matters, not because it’s cool and trendy.