Josh Withers · Wedding planning · 3 min read
Top 10 Things You Can Cut From Your Wedding Ceremony
The ceremony is the best part of the wedding, but we could afford to make some cuts.
I love the the wedding ceremony, it’s a beautiful tapestry of love, commitment … and sometimes a smattering of elements that make you wonder, “Why is this even here?”
Let’s be honest, not everything in a traditional ceremony speaks to every couple.
I’ve made an international career in pulling the wedding ceremony to pieces then rebuilding it with craft and intention.
So, if you’re looking to trim the fat and make room for more of what matters, you’ve come to the right place.
1. The Processional Parade
Do you really need a procession that rivals the cast of a Broadway musical? Simplify it. The fewer people you have marching down the aisle, the sooner you can get to the good stuff—like saying “I do.”
2. The Bouquet and Garter Toss
Unless you’re keen on turning your wedding into a sporting event, these can easily be skipped. Use that time for an extra dance or a heartfelt toast instead.
3. Unity Ceremonies
Sand, candles, and even cocktails have had their moments in the unity ceremony spotlight. But if mixing substances doesn’t mix well with your vision, feel free to ditch it.
4. Multiple Readings
A well-chosen reading can be a beautiful thing, but too many can turn your ceremony into a literary marathon. If you’re going to have one, make it count. If not, no big deal.
5. The Receiving Line
This tradition can eat up a lot of time. Why not visit each table during the reception instead? It’s more personal and leaves more time for the ceremony itself.
6. Overly Elaborate Décor
Sometimes less is more. Cutting back on décor not only saves time but also lets the focus stay where it should be—on you and your love.
7. The Ring Warming
Passing your rings through the crowd for blessings is sweet but time-consuming. If you’re not attached to it, consider a more intimate exchange.
8. Lengthy Vows
Vows are the heart of the ceremony, but they don’t have to be an epic saga. Make them as long as they need to be and no longer, as short as they need to be and no shorter, your inspiration should be making them honest and meaningful.
If you have more than a page to say, consider putting it in a letter maybe.
9. The Guest Book
Do you really need to watch people sign a book? Move this to the reception area and reclaim those precious minutes for something more engaging.
10. The Exit Strategy
The grand exit is fun but not a must-have. If you’re not keen on a dramatic farewell, use that time to mingle with your guests or sneak in an extra dance.
Remember, your wedding ceremony is your canvas. Feel free to paint it with the colours that resonate with you, not just the ones tradition hands you. By cutting out what doesn’t serve your vision, you make room for what does—more love, more joy, and more moments that you’ll treasure forever.
